: I'm having an exceptionally bad day. I don't know what to do. It's been a year and 10 months since I lost my husband, my soulmate, to cancer. I have no children. I lost my mother in March of last year, my dad in 2000, my brother in a fire in 1997. I miss my husband so very, very much. It hurts. We were "partners". It - the grief and heartache - gets worse with each passing day. I've read to many books, and they help for a time, but...What do I do? I wish we'd gone together. I'm so lost without him. So lost.

: Ann

Hello Ann

There is absolutely no easy way through or around the crossing of a loved one. All of your feelings of despair and anguish are very normal. But what might be normal for one person might be different for another. Thats what makes us unique individuals. In your own time you will be with your husband someday, but for now your journey continues on the Earthly plane. Sometimes its not the experience that is so important, but how we react to that experience. Your husband left you with something very, very special indeed, and that was a unique gift of love that he still shares with you. I say still because your husband continues on with his journey on the Other Side. As for the Grief that your going through, I would recommend that you journal your feelings on a daily basis, and also try to journal down the happy times and memories that you had togeather. There is NO time limit put on the journey with Grief, as it can take a person months or years. I have a picture of my mother and father on the bedroom wall, and theres not a day goes by that I dont throw a kiss to them and tell them how much I love them. They crossed over 21 and 15 years ago. The love and memories of our loved ones must continue on within our own souls, and when we can share these precious memories with others, its then and only then that the journey gets a little shorter.
Take care, and thank you for stopping by the home of Reaching For Joy.

Reaching For Joy
Ken