Hi Ken, I am so glad that your wonderful site is back online. I have a question I've been meaning to ask you about letting go. Since I last wrote you I bought a couple of books about astral travel and was able to wake up a couple of times in my dreams and realize that I was dreaming. So I went to search for my daughter Cassie on the astral planes and found her twice once as a baby and the next time as a very young girl in a house somewhere in Switzerland or Sweden which lead me to believe that she had reincarnated. Several months ago I had another dream visit from Cassie. I was in a garage looking for my car and I saw these 2 teenage girls in dresses and heels coming towards me and realized that one of them was Cassie. She came up to me and asked me in a somewhat displeased manner "Why are you always chasing after me?" I interpreted this to mean that I was always trying to find her when I woke up in my dreams. I said somewhat apologetically "Well I suppose its more for me than for you." Then she looked at me and said "I will always be with you." and vanished. Then I woke up. I haven't had a dream visit from her that I can remember since then. And I've stopped having lucid dreams as well. SO my question is, after a certain amount of time has passed do our loved ones who have crossed over want us to stop trying to communicate with them and just get on with our lives on this side? And if we still appear to be too attached to them does this interfere with their lives on the other side? And does this mean that after they have come to us in a dream or some other way to let us know that they ore OK that we may not see them again unless there is some crisis in our lives that they want to help us with or until we too cross over? It would be comforting to think that we can nurture an ongoing relationship with those who have passed on or is this not supposed to happen? Any advice would be greatly appreciated!! Much love and light, Bette